Why We're Lonely in a World Full of People
On presence, recognition, and the animate quality of attentionBy Mike Finn
Length29m
About this audiobook
Loneliness isn’t simply a side‑effect of smartphones or bad habits—it’s a breakdown in the felt sense of being truly met. In this concise, thought‑provoking essay, psychologist‑philosopher Mike Finn explores why even hyper‑connected lives can feel hollow, tracing the problem past familiar tech‑blaming narratives to the deeper dynamics of presence, recognition, and what he calls the “animate quality” of attention. Blending phenomenology, developmental research, and everyday vignettes—from neonatal eye‑gaze experiments to TikTok comment threads—Finn shows how attention can spark aliveness between people or leave us untouched in a crowd. Clear, gently radical, and full of practical insight, Why We’re Lonely in a World Full of People offers a framework for restoring genuine connection without abandoning technology, inviting readers to practice a more felt way of looking, listening, and being looked back at.
Audiobook details
Rating★★★★★ 5.0 (1)
GenrePhilosophy, Health and Wellness
Length29 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateMay 30, 2025
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1The Watching Sculpture
5The Crisis of Recognition
2The Puzzle of Personal Space
6The Intelligence of Movement
3The Animation of Attention
7The Ethics of Attention
4The Face-to-Face Encounter
8Toward Animate Presence
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