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The Art of Dealing with Feelings
How to Use Your Emotions to Create the Life You Truly WantBy Daniel Hartmann
Length8h 23m
About this audiobook
What If Your Emotions Aren't the Problem, But the Skill You Never Learned?
In your hardest moments, how did you respond? Did you fly off the handle? Freeze with indecision? Say something you regretted within the hour? Or did you stay grounded and come out stronger? The answer likely shaped everything that happened next, in your career, your relationships, and your sense of yourself.
The Art of Dealing with Feelings is a research-based guide to emotional regulation, built on decades of psychology and neuroscience, for anyone ready to stop being ruled by their emotions and start using them on purpose. This is not a book about suppressing feelings or forcing positivity. It teaches a practical, evidence-based skill: reading your emotions accurately, understanding where they come from, and choosing your response with intention, so you can build genuine emotional intelligence and lasting well-being.
Inside, you will discover how to:
• Understand why you feel what you feel, and what your emotions are actually trying to tell you
• Use the science of emotion regulation, including the five key points where you can intervene before a feeling takes over
• Read your body's signals early, before a reaction spirals out of control
• Build emotional granularity: the skill of naming precisely what you feel, shown to reduce anxiety and impulsive behavior
• Trace your emotional triggers back to their real source, memory, meaning, or an unmet need
• Choose your response with cognitive reappraisal, attention control, and situation selection, instead of white-knuckling it
• Understand why suppressing emotions backfires, and how acceptance actually works
• Work with anger, fear, and anxiety without letting them run the show
• Move through sadness, grief, shame, and guilt without getting stuck
• Use emotions as fuel for motivation, resilience, and smarter decision-making
• Navigate emotions in love, friendship, family, and at work, including difficult conversations and burnout prevention
• Build a personally resilient life through sleep, movement, connection, gratitude, and meaning
Written like a practical manual and not a textbook, every chapter blends real-life stories, findings from psychology and neuroscience, and exercises you can use the same day. Each chapter closes with a short reflection and a practice for the week ahead, making this an ideal audiobook for your commute, your workout, or a quiet evening.
This book is for you if you:
• Struggle with anxiety, overthinking, or a temper that gets the better of you
• Want stronger emotional intelligence for your career or leadership role
• Are working through grief, burnout, or a difficult relationship
• Want to break inherited patterns and respond instead of react
• Are ready to build genuine self-awareness and lasting emotional resilience
There are no bad emotions, only emotions you have not yet learned to direct. This guide gives you the tools to work with your feelings and the feelings of others, so you can become the best version of yourself and lift the people around you too.
Please note: This book is educational and does not replace therapy. If you are struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a qualified professional.
Click Buy Now and start building the emotional skills that will change how you live, love, and lead.
Audiobook details
GenrePsychology
Length8 hrs 23 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateSep 28, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Introduction
2Introduction: The Moment Before You Respond 6
3The Hardest Moment You Remember, and What Happened Next 6
4No Bad Emotions, Only Emotions We Haven't Learned to Read 8
5How to Use This Book: Skills, Not Traits 9
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6Chapter 1: Why You Feel What You Feel 12
7Emotions as Messengers: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You 12
8Thinking Brain, Feeling Brain: How the Two Work Together 14
9The Cost of Ignoring Your Inner Signals 16
10Chapter 2: Emotion Regulation Is a Skill, Not a Talent 19
11What the Latest Science Says: The Process Model of Emotion Regulation 19
12Five Places to Intervene: Before, During, and After a Feeling Arrives 21
13Why Practice Beats Willpower 23
14Chapter 3: Listening to the Body First 26
15The Physical Signature of Every Emotion 26
16Interoception: Training the Sense You Were Never Taught 28
17The Ninety-Second Rule and Other Myths Worth Testing 30
18Chapter 4: Naming It to Tame It 33
19Emotional Granularity: From "Bad" to "Disappointed, Not Betrayed" 33
20Building a Richer Emotional Vocabulary 35
21Journaling and Labeling Tools That Actually Work 37
22Chapter 5: Your Triggers, Your Patterns, Your Story 41
23Where Triggers Come From: Memory, Meaning, and Unmet Needs 41
24Mapping Your Emotional Loops 44
25Separating the Facts from the Story You Tell Yourself 46
26Chapter 6: Choosing Your Response 49
27Shaping the Situation: Avoid, Change, or Enter With Intention 49
28Redirecting Your Attention: What to Focus On When Feelings Run High 51
29Cognitive Reappraisal: Changing What an Event Means Without Denying It 53
30Chapter 7: Why Suppression Backfires and Acceptance Works 57
31Bottling It Up: What the Research Says About Suppression and Avoidance 57
32Making Room for Discomfort: Acceptance, Defusion, and Values-Based Action 59
33Expressing Feelings Without Being Ruled by Them 63
34Chapter 8: Working With Anger, Fear, and Anxiety 67
35Anger: The Energy Behind a Boundary 67
36Fear and Anxiety: Turning Alarm into Preparation 69
37Calming Tools for the Moment of Overwhelm: Breath, Movement, and Reset Routines 72
38Chapter 9: Sadness, Grief, Shame, and Guilt 76
39Sadness and Loss: Why Slowing Down Is Sometimes the Right Response 76
40Shame vs. Guilt: One Isolates You, the Other Motivates Repair 79
41Self-Compassion: The Strongest Antidote to the Inner Critic 82
42Chapter 10: Using Emotions to Reach Your Goals 86
43Emotions and Motivation: Excitement, Frustration, and the Fuel Behind Action 86
44Setbacks, Failure, and Rejection: Staying in the Game 89
45Making Wiser Decisions When You Feel Strongly 91
46Chapter 11: Emotions in Love, Friendship, and Family 96
47Co-Regulation: How We Calm and Unsettle One Another 96
48Empathy Without Absorbing: Working With Other People's Emotions 99
49Difficult Conversations: Expressing Needs, Repairing Ruptures 101
50Chapter 12: Emotions at Work and in Leadership 107
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