1Step 1: Are You A Victim?
29Relationship goals
2Definitions of victim
30Step 7: Devising a Long-Term Strategy
3If You Are A Victim…
31Practical and Emotional Blocks
4A negative controller is someone who
32Ten Rules for good problem solving:
5Always Getting Your Own Way
33Essential Needs for Productive Problem Solving
6Step 2: Does Fear Control You?
34Step 8: Devising a Short-Term Strategy
7Frightening Someone into Submission
35Realistic
8Controlling People, Situations and Outcomes
36Attainable
9Shifting Blame from Yourself
37Measurable
10Criticism
38Make One Small Change
11Intimidation
39Step 9: Observe, Consolidate & Review
12Step 3: How Do You Become A Victim?
40Observe
13Rewards for Being a Victim
41Consolidate
14Parental Behavior
42Review
15Are you really a victim?
43Positive outcomes after changing
16Step 4: Do You Want to Change?
44Step 10: Continue the Strategy
17Why Do You Want To Become A Survivor?
45Personal Power
18Indicators of Change: Victim to Survivor
46Personal Power from What You Have Learned
19Relationship Development
47“Victim” – A Poem
20Commitment
48Appendix A: Bullying in the workplace
21Step 5: The Process of Change
49What Workplace Bullies Do
22Don’t React
50What Impact Does Bullying Have On You?
23What if this is as good as it gets?
51How do you spot a bully?
24Don’t Expect Anything from Anyone Else
52What Can You Do If You Are A Victim?
25Step 6: Being Realistic
53Appendix B: Emergency Contacts
26Stay in the Here and Now
54Bibliography
27Staying in Reality
55Index
28Staying Focused