The Codependency Recovery Path
Breaking Patterns After Divorce — Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries You Can Keep, and Rebuild Your Identity Even When You Still Have to Co-Parent With HimBy Hazel Trentham
Length2h 59m
About this audiobook
The divorce ended the marriage. It didn't end the habit.
For years you were the one keeping the peace — reading his moods, softening his edges, putting yourself last so things would stay quiet. And now that the marriage is over, you're still doing it. With him. With the children. With everyone.
Most codependency books have the same advice at their core: detach, go no-contact, cut them out. But you share children. A custody schedule. A mortgage, a school run, a history. You can't just walk away — and nobody has written the book for that.
This is that book.
This 28-day path is a quiet, practical way out of people-pleasing — written specifically for women who are still co-parenting with him and can't simply cut contact.
Each day pairs a short reading with reflective prompts and one small practice you can actually keep. No jargon, no twelve-step framework, no higher power — just steady, secular, do-this-today work.
Inside you'll find:
- A 20-question self-assessment so you can see your own patterns clearly before changing them
- The four skills — NOTICE, PAUSE, NAME, CHOOSE — the whole method in four moves
- A 28-day plan with an explicit instruction to change nothing in week one — you learn to see the pattern before you touch it
- Four chapters on the situations you cannot walk away from — co-parenting, money, the ex who still calls, and the people who took sides
- 36 numbered, labelled practices — specific incidents, not generic reflection, so you can find your own answers months later
- Guidance for dating again — on your terms, when and if you're ready
You will not be asked to become someone new. You'll be asked to come back to yourself.
Written for the quiet, undramatic marriage — not addiction, not overt abuse — and for the woman who is done shrinking. A calmer, stronger, more confident you is possible.
Audiobook details
GenreSelf-Help, Health and Wellness
Length2 hrs 59 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateSep 27, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Introduction
2Important — Please Read First
3How to Use This Book
4Go slowly. Slower than you want to.
5Every practice is numbered
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6You do not have to do all of them
7What this book will not do
8The shape of the book
9Where Are You Right Now?
10You Were Not Too Much. You Were Too Alone.
11The thing nobody tells you about leaving
12What you were actually doing
13Why this book is different from the others
14What is going to happen in these pages
15What I will not promise you
16Codependency Without the Drama
17What it actually looked like
18The four moving parts
19What it is not
20A word about blame
21Why It Didn’t End When the Marriage Did
22The pattern was never really about him
23Why you cannot use the standard advice
24The switch
25Where it is landing now
26The trap on the other side
27Where You Learned It
28Nobody is born managing other people
29The rules you were given
30How the rules chose your marriage
31On blaming your parents
32Your Nervous System After Divorce
33What your body learned to do
34What it looks like in ordinary life
35Teaching your body that it is over
36When it is more than this
37This part gets better first
38Grieving Two Things at Once
39The first grief: the marriage
40The second grief: the woman you thought you would be
41There are no stages to get through
42Where the pattern shows up in grief
43Give it somewhere to go
44The dates
45When grief is something else
46The Four Skills You’ll Use Every Day
47The window
48Skill One: Notice
49Skill Two: Pause
50Skill Three: Name
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