Sessions with My Psychologist
120 Lessons That Helped Me Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries, and Find PeaceBy Sophia Keller
Length6h 16m
About this audiobook
Some people spend decades being everything to everyone — and nothing to themselves. This book is about what happens when you finally stop.
Sessions with My Psychologist is a deeply honest, experience-first book about people-pleasing recovery, boundary setting, and the long, nonlinear work of becoming someone who knows who she is and acts accordingly. Drawn from years of real therapeutic sessions, 14 unflinching chapters, and 120 distilled lessons, this is not a book of motivational promises. It is the complete, honest account of what genuine healing actually costs — and what it produces on the other side.
For readers exhausted by performing fine-ness. For the chronic yes-sayer whose body has been keeping a different score. For anyone who has ever built a life around other people's comfort at the quiet cost of their own.
This is the book that stays with you. Because it does not tell you what you want to hear. It tells you what is true.
Audiobook details
GenrePsychology
Length6 hrs 16 mins
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FormateBook with Audio
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Sessions with My Psychologist
43Chapter 8: Boundaries With the People Who Love You Most
2Foreword: The Couch, the Clock, and the Courage It Took to Show Up
448.1 Setting Limits With Parents When the Guilt Is Louder Than the Logic
3PART ONE: THE DIAGNOSIS OF PEOPLE-PLEASING
458.2 Telling a Friend the Truth About What You Can No Longer Be for Them
4Chapter 1: Why I Kept Saying Yes When Every Part of Me Screamed No
468.3 Renegotiating the Terms of Love in a Long-Term Relationship
51.1 The Exhaustion Nobody Could See — Living on Empty While Appearing Fine
478.4 What Happens to Family Dynamics When One Person Decides to Change
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61.2 The Childhood Script: How I Learned That Love Had to Be Earned
488.5 Loving People Across a Healthy Distance — and Not Calling It Abandonment
71.3 Approval as Oxygen: Why Other People's Opinions Became My Air Supply
49PART FOUR: REBUILDING THE SELF
81.4 The Hidden Cost of Being "The Easy One" in Every Room
50Chapter 9: Excavating My Own Desires — What Did I Actually Want?
9Chapter 2: The People-Pleaser's Portrait — Was This Always Me?
519.1 Sitting With the Terrifying Blankness: "I Don't Know What I Like"
102.1 The Twelve Faces of People-Pleasing (and the One I Wore Most)
529.2 Rediscovering Joy Without Needing to Justify It to Anyone
112.2 When Kindness Becomes a Costume: The Difference Between Giving and Performing
539.3 Building an Identity That Doesn't Require Someone Else's Validation to Stand
122.3 My Body Kept the Score Before My Mind Would Admit the Truth
549.4 The Practice of Small Wants: Starting With What You Want for Lunch
132.4 The Moment I Realized My "Niceness" Was Actually Fear in Disguise
55Chapter 10: Self-Compassion Was the Lesson I Kept Failing
14Chapter 3: The Roots Grow Deep — Family, Trauma, and the Stories We Inherit
5610.1 The Inner Critic Who Sounded Exactly Like the Voices I Was Still Trying to Please
153.1 The Parent Who Needed Me to Need Them — Untangling Enmeshment
5710.2 The Difference Between Accountability and Self-Punishment
163.2 Growing Up in a House Where Peace Was Purchased with Silence
5810.3 How I Learned to Apologize to Myself — and Mean It
173.3 How Praise for Compliance Quietly Became a Life Sentence
5910.4 Treating Your Own Pain With the Tenderness You'd Offer a Stranger
183.4 Grief for the Child Who Learned to Disappear to Keep Others Comfortable
60PART FIVE: THE ARRIVAL
193.5 Breaking the Generational Vow: "I Will Not Pass This Down"
61Chapter 11: What Healing Actually Looks Like (Hint: It's Messier Than the Books Suggest)
20PART TWO: THE BRUTAL HONESTY SESSIONS
6211.1 The Day I Set a Boundary and Cried Anyway — and That Was Still Progress
21Chapter 4: My Therapist Said Something That Made Me Want to Walk Out
6311.2 Regression Is Not Relapse: Understanding the Spiral Shape of Recovery
224.1 "You're Not Being Kind — You're Avoiding Conflict." The Session That Cracked Me Open
6411.3 When Old Patterns Return Under Stress and How to Greet Them Without Shame
234.2 Learning to Sit With Feedback Without Immediately Apologizing for Myself
6511.4 Celebrating the Quiet Victories Nobody Else Could See
244.3 The Difference Between Being Misunderstood and Being Unwilling to Be Known
66Chapter 12: The Relationships That Grew With Me — and the Ones That Couldn't
254.4 Why I Kept Making Myself Small and Calling It Humility
6712.1 The People Who Loved the Real Me More Than the Convenient Me
26Chapter 5: The Relationships I Had to Look at Honestly
6812.2 Grieving the Friendships That Were Built on My Smallness
275.1 The Friend I Called "Close" Who Only Called When They Needed Something
6912.3 How I Learned to Receive Without Immediately Trying to Repay
285.2 Loving Someone Who Mistook My Boundaries for Betrayal
7012.4 What Mutual Relationships Feel Like When You've Only Known One-Sided Ones
295.3 The Workplace Dynamic That Was Teaching Me I Had No Worth
7112.5 Choosing People Consciously Instead of Just Being Available to Whoever Arrives
305.4 How I Confused Intensity With Intimacy — and Chaos With Connection
72Chapter 13: Peace Is Not the Absence of Conflict — It's the Presence of Yourself
315.5 Writing the List of People I Was Afraid to Disappoint, and Asking Why
7313.1 When I Stopped Needing Every Room to Feel Safe and Started Making Myself Safe
32Chapter 6: The Lies I Told Myself to Stay Comfortable
7413.2 The Daily Habits That Quiet the People-Pleasing Reflex Before It Fires
336.1 "I'm Just a Caring Person" — and Other Stories I Used as Shields
7513.3 Saying the True Thing Even When Your Voice Shakes
346.2 The Martyrdom Loop: How Suffering in Silence Kept Me Feeling Needed
7613.4 Sitting With Disapproval and Discovering You Survive It Every Time
356.3 Confusing Familiarity With Safety: Why I Kept Returning to What Hurt
77Chapter 14: 120 Lessons — A Living Reference
366.4 The Day I Accepted That Staying Was a Choice — and So Was Leaving
7814.1 Lessons 1–30: What I Learned About Where This All Came From
37PART THREE: LEARNING THE LANGUAGE OF BOUNDARIES
7914.2 Lessons 31–60: What I Learned About Saying No and Meaning It
38Chapter 7: No Is a Complete Sentence — But First I Had to Learn to Say It
8014.3 Lessons 61–90: What I Learned About Who I Actually Am
397.1 What No Actually Means When You've Never Been Allowed to Mean It
8114.4 Lessons 91–120: What I Learned About What Peace Requires of You Daily
407.2 The Three-Part Boundary Formula My Psychologist Taught Me (That I Kept Forgetting Under Pressure)
82Epilogue: The Last Session
417.3 When They Pushed Back: Holding the Line Without Holding a Grudge
83A Note on Therapy: How to Find the Right Help and What to Expect When You Do
427.4 Guilt Is Not a Sign You Did Something Wrong — It's a Sign You Did Something New
84Acknowledgments: To Everyone Who Stayed While I Was Becoming
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