Sessions with My Psychologist
120 Lessons That Helped Me Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries, and Find PeaceBy Sophia Keller
Length6h 16m
About this audiobook
Some people spend decades being everything to everyone — and nothing to themselves. This book is about what happens when you finally stop.
Sessions with My Psychologist is a deeply honest, experience-first book about people-pleasing recovery, boundary setting, and the long, nonlinear work of becoming someone who knows who she is and acts accordingly. Drawn from years of real therapeutic sessions, 14 unflinching chapters, and 120 distilled lessons, this is not a book of motivational promises. It is the complete, honest account of what genuine healing actually costs — and what it produces on the other side.
For readers exhausted by performing fine-ness. For the chronic yes-sayer whose body has been keeping a different score. For anyone who has ever built a life around other people's comfort at the quiet cost of their own.
This is the book that stays with you. Because it does not tell you what you want to hear. It tells you what is true.
Audiobook details
GenrePsychology
Length6 hrs 16 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Sessions with My Psychologist
2Foreword: The Couch, the Clock, and the Courage It Took to Show Up
3PART ONE: THE DIAGNOSIS OF PEOPLE-PLEASING
4Chapter 1: Why I Kept Saying Yes When Every Part of Me Screamed No
51.1 The Exhaustion Nobody Could See — Living on Empty While Appearing Fine
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61.2 The Childhood Script: How I Learned That Love Had to Be Earned
71.3 Approval as Oxygen: Why Other People's Opinions Became My Air Supply
81.4 The Hidden Cost of Being "The Easy One" in Every Room
9Chapter 2: The People-Pleaser's Portrait — Was This Always Me?
102.1 The Twelve Faces of People-Pleasing (and the One I Wore Most)
112.2 When Kindness Becomes a Costume: The Difference Between Giving and Performing
122.3 My Body Kept the Score Before My Mind Would Admit the Truth
132.4 The Moment I Realized My "Niceness" Was Actually Fear in Disguise
14Chapter 3: The Roots Grow Deep — Family, Trauma, and the Stories We Inherit
153.1 The Parent Who Needed Me to Need Them — Untangling Enmeshment
163.2 Growing Up in a House Where Peace Was Purchased with Silence
173.3 How Praise for Compliance Quietly Became a Life Sentence
183.4 Grief for the Child Who Learned to Disappear to Keep Others Comfortable
193.5 Breaking the Generational Vow: "I Will Not Pass This Down"
20PART TWO: THE BRUTAL HONESTY SESSIONS
21Chapter 4: My Therapist Said Something That Made Me Want to Walk Out
224.1 "You're Not Being Kind — You're Avoiding Conflict." The Session That Cracked Me Open
234.2 Learning to Sit With Feedback Without Immediately Apologizing for Myself
244.3 The Difference Between Being Misunderstood and Being Unwilling to Be Known
254.4 Why I Kept Making Myself Small and Calling It Humility
26Chapter 5: The Relationships I Had to Look at Honestly
275.1 The Friend I Called "Close" Who Only Called When They Needed Something
285.2 Loving Someone Who Mistook My Boundaries for Betrayal
295.3 The Workplace Dynamic That Was Teaching Me I Had No Worth
305.4 How I Confused Intensity With Intimacy — and Chaos With Connection
315.5 Writing the List of People I Was Afraid to Disappoint, and Asking Why
32Chapter 6: The Lies I Told Myself to Stay Comfortable
336.1 "I'm Just a Caring Person" — and Other Stories I Used as Shields
346.2 The Martyrdom Loop: How Suffering in Silence Kept Me Feeling Needed
356.3 Confusing Familiarity With Safety: Why I Kept Returning to What Hurt
366.4 The Day I Accepted That Staying Was a Choice — and So Was Leaving
37PART THREE: LEARNING THE LANGUAGE OF BOUNDARIES
38Chapter 7: No Is a Complete Sentence — But First I Had to Learn to Say It
397.1 What No Actually Means When You've Never Been Allowed to Mean It
407.2 The Three-Part Boundary Formula My Psychologist Taught Me (That I Kept Forgetting Under Pressure)
417.3 When They Pushed Back: Holding the Line Without Holding a Grudge
427.4 Guilt Is Not a Sign You Did Something Wrong — It's a Sign You Did Something New
43Chapter 8: Boundaries With the People Who Love You Most
448.1 Setting Limits With Parents When the Guilt Is Louder Than the Logic
458.2 Telling a Friend the Truth About What You Can No Longer Be for Them
468.3 Renegotiating the Terms of Love in a Long-Term Relationship
478.4 What Happens to Family Dynamics When One Person Decides to Change
488.5 Loving People Across a Healthy Distance — and Not Calling It Abandonment
49PART FOUR: REBUILDING THE SELF
50Chapter 9: Excavating My Own Desires — What Did I Actually Want?
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