CLEARED TO CONTACT
The R.A.F.A. Model for Navigating Conflict with PrecisionBy Rafael A Him II
Length2h 57m
About this audiobook
At 35,000 feet over Afghanistan, in the dark, with wounded soldiers in the aircraft behind him, Rafael A. Him II had seconds to make a call that would keep two airplanes from colliding. He made it. What he learned in that moment became a model for handling conflict anywhere the stakes are real.
Cleared to Contact is a field manual for difficult conversations, drawn from three careers most people never enter even one of: military combat, elected office, and building a business. At its center is the R.A.F.A. model: Recognize the Root, Acknowledge Before Advancing, Find the Frame, Act with Awareness. Four steps you can run under pressure.
This is not a book about being nicer. It is about precision. The call is coming. This book gets you ready to make it.
Audiobook details
GenreSelf-Help, Business and Economics
Length2 hrs 57 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateJun 27, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Chapter 1
2Rafael A. Him II Scott Air Force Base, Illinois, 2026
3Prologue The Question That Matters
4Introduction What This Book Is and What It Is Not
5The Framework
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6The Aerial Refueling Parallel
7What I Did Right Before Everything Went Wrong
8September 11th and What Followed
9The Pause Protocol
10The pause.
11The 24-Hour Rule
12Conflict in the Digital Age
13The Role of Apology
14How Panama Made Me
15The Electrical Fire at Altitude
16The C-130 That Lost an Engine
17Hostile Fire Over Afghanistan
18The Stolen Cessna and the Alert Force
19Iceland, Japan, and Hurricane Gustav
20The Multi-Point Refueling System and CNN
21Data Conflicts: The Alignment Problem
22Relationship Conflicts: The Wound Problem
23What Recognition Actually Means
24What Colonel Allvin Taught Me About Recognition
25Why Acknowledgment Comes Before Everything Else
26The Repair Protocol
27The Language That Actually Works
28From Positions to Interests
29Find the Frame in Labor Negotiations
30The Internal State Check
31The Trigger History Problem
32response.
33The Profile
34Executing Grey Rock Without Going Cold
35The Profile
36What I Learned From Colonel Allvin
37The Commander’s Obligation
38Two Stories from Clinton County
39The TACC at Speed
40Two A.M. Client Calls: The Entrepreneur’s Test
41Why I Wrote This Book
42SnapSite and the Municipal Clients
43Step One: Recent Conflict Inventory
44Step Three: The Real-Time Protocol
45Why Shared Conflict Language Changes Everything
46Conflict Norms
47R.A.F.A. in Marriage and Family Conflict
48Conflict and Forgiveness
49What the Model Gives You
50STEP ZERO: THE PAUSE PROTOCOL
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