CLEARED TO CONTACT
The R.A.F.A. Model for Navigating Conflict with PrecisionBy Rafael A Him II
Length2h 57m
About this audiobook
At 35,000 feet over Afghanistan, in the dark, with wounded soldiers in the aircraft behind him, Rafael A. Him II had seconds to make a call that would keep two airplanes from colliding. He made it. What he learned in that moment became a model for handling conflict anywhere the stakes are real.
Cleared to Contact is a field manual for difficult conversations, drawn from three careers most people never enter even one of: military combat, elected office, and building a business. At its center is the R.A.F.A. model: Recognize the Root, Acknowledge Before Advancing, Find the Frame, Act with Awareness. Four steps you can run under pressure.
This is not a book about being nicer. It is about precision. The call is coming. This book gets you ready to make it.
Audiobook details
GenreSelf-Help, Business and Economics
Length2 hrs 57 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateJun 27, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Chapter 1
29Find the Frame in Labor Negotiations
2Rafael A. Him II Scott Air Force Base, Illinois, 2026
30The Internal State Check
3Prologue The Question That Matters
31The Trigger History Problem
4Introduction What This Book Is and What It Is Not
32response.
5The Framework
33The Profile
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6The Aerial Refueling Parallel
34Executing Grey Rock Without Going Cold
7What I Did Right Before Everything Went Wrong
35The Profile
8September 11th and What Followed
36What I Learned From Colonel Allvin
9The Pause Protocol
37The Commander’s Obligation
10The pause.
38Two Stories from Clinton County
11The 24-Hour Rule
39The TACC at Speed
12Conflict in the Digital Age
40Two A.M. Client Calls: The Entrepreneur’s Test
13The Role of Apology
41Why I Wrote This Book
14How Panama Made Me
42SnapSite and the Municipal Clients
15The Electrical Fire at Altitude
43Step One: Recent Conflict Inventory
16The C-130 That Lost an Engine
44Step Three: The Real-Time Protocol
17Hostile Fire Over Afghanistan
45Why Shared Conflict Language Changes Everything
18The Stolen Cessna and the Alert Force
46Conflict Norms
19Iceland, Japan, and Hurricane Gustav
47R.A.F.A. in Marriage and Family Conflict
20The Multi-Point Refueling System and CNN
48Conflict and Forgiveness
21Data Conflicts: The Alignment Problem
49What the Model Gives You
22Relationship Conflicts: The Wound Problem
50STEP ZERO: THE PAUSE PROTOCOL
23What Recognition Actually Means
51APPENDIX B Language Scripts by Conflict Type Data Conflict Scripts
24What Colonel Allvin Taught Me About Recognition
52Acknowledgment Scripts
25Why Acknowledgment Comes Before Everything Else
53Section 1: Recent Conflict Inventory (5 situations)
26The Repair Protocol
54Section 4: My Real-Time Protocol
27The Language That Actually Works
55Outline
28From Positions to Interests
56CLEARED TO CONTACT
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