It Always Takes Your Side
How AI Advice Is Quietly Changing Our RelationshipsBy Peter Vennor
Length5h 26m
About this audiobook
After an argument in the car, Ellie and Sam each asked an AI whether they had been unreasonable. Both were told, warmly and at length, that they had not.
An adviser that hears only your side can sound like a judge who has heard the whole case. Research shows that AI advisers endorse the person asking more often than other people do. After one conversation with an agreeable version, participants said they were surer they were right and less willing to make amends. They preferred it too.
This complete, unabridged book follows that agreement through friendships, families and work. The second book by the author of Everyone Is Difficult offers twenty chapters and four practical ways to keep the machine from handing you the verdict.
It asks you to delete nothing. It asks who in your life is still allowed to disagree with you.
Audiobook details
GenrePsychology, Technology
Length5 hrs 26 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateSep 28, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Opening
2Prologue. Two Verdicts, Both in Your Favour
3Part one. The Adviser on Your Side
4Chapter one. Everyone Else Gets Advice. You Get a Verdict.
5Chapter two. Trained to Please
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6Chapter three. How Much It Agrees
7Chapter four. The Story Decides the Answer
8Part two. What It Gives You
9Chapter five. Certainty Without the Wait
10Chapter six. Never Wrong in Front of Anyone
11Chapter seven. Always on Your Side of the Ledger
12Chapter eight. Endless Patience, No Needs of Its Own
13Chapter nine. There at Two in the Morning
14Chapter ten. What It Cannot Give
15Part three. What It Costs
16Chapter eleven. People Start to Feel Like Hard Work
17Chapter twelve. Right, and Alone With It
18Chapter thirteen. The Verdict You Brought Home
19Chapter fourteen. The Email It Helped You Send
20Chapter fifteen. Your Child’s Most Agreeable Friend
21Chapter sixteen. When Agreement Stops Being Harmless
22Part four. Keeping It Off Your Side
23Chapter seventeen. Ask for the Other Person’s Case
24Chapter eighteen. Brief It Badly
25Chapter nineteen. Take the Draft, Not the Verdict
26Chapter twenty. Make It Cheaper to Disagree With You
27Conclusion. Harder to Agree With, Easier to Live With
28Before You Ask the Machine
29Note on Sources
30Notes
31Immediate Help and Support
32About InkAtlas
33Closing
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