THE SECOND UPBRINGING
Who raised you, what is changing you, and who you are raisingBy Abdihakin Elmi
Length3h 56m
About this audiobook
Nobody raises themselves.
You were made by people you did not choose. A mother who carried a family alone and was never asked what she wanted for herself. A father who loved you in a language nobody translated. A friend whose three words kept you exactly where you were.
And it did not stop. Something is shaping you today: the flinch you lost without noticing, the hours you cannot account for, the thing that quietly stopped bothering you.
Meanwhile you began shaping other people. Your children. Your younger siblings. Anyone who watches how you behave when you are tired.
This book is about all three: who made you, what is making you, and who you are making.
Fifteen chapters. Each one a story, a hard truth, five questions, and one small thing to do this week. Written for Somali readers and for anyone raised in a family where a great deal was carried and very little was said.
It was not written to make you feel good. It was written to make you think.
Audiobook details
GenreBiography and Memoir, Self-Help
Length3 hrs 56 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateSep 26, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Introduction
26Why They Went Silent
2Introduction
27What You Saw And What Happened
3Where This Came From
28Three Kinds Of Absence
4The Idea
29What Fills The Gap
5How To Read It
30My Father, And What I Learned From Other People
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6What Each Chapter Contains
31If Your Father Actually Harmed You
7One Chapter At A Time
32If Your Father Is Still Alive
8One Request
33If Your Father Has Died
9The Mother
34The Father You Are Becoming
10The Year Everything Changed
35Questions
11The Accounting Nobody Kept
36This Week
12Sesame Sweets
37The Friend
13The Women Whose Names Are Not Recorded
38The Message That Came At Night
14What She Pretended
39Three Words
15When She Had To Be Both
40Friendship Was Never A Choice
16If She Hurt You
41How A Friend Changes You Without You Noticing
17The Question Nobody Asked
42Three Kinds Of Friend
18The Arithmetic You Do Not Want To Do
43The Three Question Test
19If She Has Passed
44The Betrayal Did Not Happen That Day
20A Debt That Cannot Be Repaid
45How To Leave Without Making Enemies
21Questions
46The Ones You Cannot Leave
22This Week
47You, As Somebody Else's Friend
23The Father
48The Friend You Could Be
24The Man Who Sat In The Car For Forty Minutes
49Questions
25Love Without Words
50This Week
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