Fearful Avoidant

Fearful Avoidant

How I Used Neuroscience to Heal Disorganized Attachment and Relationship OCD (REVISED EDITION)By Anton Bogdanov
Michael Caine
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Length6h 26m

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STOP FIXING SYMPTOMS. REWIRE THE MACHINE. The Neuroscience-Based Owner’s Manual for Fearful Avoidants If you’re trapped in the hell of Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) attachment – where love and closeness trigger panic, intimacy and connection fuel constant doubts and breakup urges, and your brain sabotages relationships like a corrupted operating system – this book is your debug tool. No more drowning in anxiety, obsessive loops, or feeling "broken." I survived that war. Let me help you find the way out. This isn’t another pop psychology book, a self-help workbook that asks you to follow fifty exercises without explaining why they work, or a long textbook by an Ivy League professor. I’m a former tech marketing executive from a Fortune 500 company whose life and a successful 30-year career imploded when my Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) attachment erupted into gruelling Relationship OCD at midlife. For two years since January 2022, I lived in hell as I worked to crack the code of my condition. Using my experience in technology marketing and behavioral psychology (and two years of intensive neuroscience and trauma psychology research), while battling constant anxiety and panic attacks, I decoded the patterns that trapped me and created a neuroscience-based roadmap to break free from it – without therapy. I have studied and distilled recurrent themes and complementary ideas from almost a hundred books by world-leading experts on Brain Neurochemistry, Neurobiology of Stress and Anxiety, Psychological Trauma, Complex PTSD, Attachment Theory, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Exposure Therapy, Mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and many other topics.  You don’t need to waste years searching for answers about your contradictory feelings, intrusive thoughts and puzzling behavior. I basically “opened the hood” of Disorganized Attachment and Relationship OCD and demystified them to the level of common diseases. Healing is possible, even if it requires learning and patience. PERSONAL STORY OF USING NEUROSCIENCE TO GET OUT OF PAIN: - Real Experience of Self-Education and Self-Therapy: combines latest cutting-edge neuroscience with evidence-based healing interventions. - Actionable: Only practical neuroplasticity-based strategies that helped heal my severe attachment trauma and relationship anxiety. - Save Years: I distilled 10,000+ hours of research, extracting common themes and complementary ideas by some of the world's best authors in a condensed manual. CONCISE, IN-DEPTH ROADMAP, WHERE YOU’LL DISCOVER: - The Neuroscience/Attachment Link: How childhood attachment trauma fuels Relationship Anxiety/OCD. - The 7-Stage Neuro-Protocol: Science-backed steps to disarm threat responses and build security. - Why Traditional Therapy Fails Fearful Avoidants: The missing neuroscience interventions most therapists overlook. - Extensive Curated Further Reading List: Only the most impactful and well-reviewed resources. STOP TREATING YOURSELF LIKE A MYSTERY. UNDERSTAND YOUR BRAIN. REWIRE IT.

Audiobook details

Rating★★★★★ 4.7 (10)
Includes Goodreads
GenrePsychology, Self-Help
Length6 hrs 26 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateJul 23, 2025
LanguageEnglish

Table of contents

1Dedication
18REBOOT YOUR REWARD SYSTEM
2Preface
19Chapter 7
3PART I:
20PUT ON "WATER WINGS"
4Chapter 1
21Chapter 8
5WHAT IS FEARFUL-AVOIDANT (DISORGANIZED) ATTACHMENT (pt. 1)
22TURBULENCE AHEAD!
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6WHAT IS FEARFUL-AVOIDANT (DISORGANIZED) ATTACHMENT (pt. 2)
23Chapter 9
7Chapter 2
24USE WISDOM OF THE BODY (pt. 1)
8NEUROSCIENCE OF DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT AND RELATIONSHIP OCD (pt. 1)
25USE WISDOM OF THE BODY (pt. 2)
9NEUROSCIENCE OF DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT AND RELATIONSHIP OCD (pt. 2)
26Chapter 10
10PART II:
27CHANGE IS DAILY WORK
11Chapter 3
28CONCLUSION
12WE ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS
29PLEASE LEAVE A REVIEW
13Chapter 4
30GLOSSARY
14FACE YOUR FEARS
31RESOURCES/FURTHER READING/ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
15Chapter 5
32ABOUT THE AUTHOR
16HEAL YOUR INNER CHILD
33YOUR JOURNEY MATTERS TO ME
17Chapter 6
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