Studies In Ageing And Dementia
Valuing Older People Is never a Time Mis- spentBy Robert Parker
Length4h 30m
About this audiobook
This book is a pleasure to read. In over forty thumbnail sketches it combines simple human stories with important questions about the meaning of life and death, and the ways in which people suffering from dementia are treated.
Robert and I have been friends since we trained together for the Anglican priesthood. When he moved from parish ministry into caring for people at the end of life, he took with him his immense personal energy, his Christian principles and his pastoral heart. Three things shine from these pages:
• The conviction that we are children of God with deep spiritual needs right to the end of our lives.
• The pastoral instinct that the whole person is still there beneath the ravages of dementia.
• The personal generosity which inspires Robert to spend quality time with each one, and to insist that
they are treated with kindness and simple humanity as well as professional competence.
Particularly important is the emphasis on "triggers": words and actions which can spark off negative and even violent reactions in persons with dementia, and which families and care home staff need to avoid. But the book characteristically recommends a far greater number of positive triggers which, by contrast, can create moments of spontaneous delight, happy memories and spiritual insight. These include music, acts of worship with familiar prayers and choruses, reminiscence boxes, bingo and other games, letting residents help with chores, and even taking them train excursions and cycle rides.
The investment and staffing ratios evident in Robert's care homes tend to confine this quality of care to the sort of professional people whose stories are told in this book. The major challenge facing Britain's struggling care sector is to make these standards available to the have-nots as well the haves. This book deserves to be widely read, to create in all of us the vision of what is possible and the generosity and political will to make it happen.
Bishop Michael Bourke ( Bishop of Wolverhampton, retired)
Audiobook details
GenreHealth and Wellness
Length4 hrs 30 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateNov 21, 2023
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Introduction
21. FOREWORD
32. Introduction
43. +Mark…The measure of any society
54. Simon…The process of continual bereavement… The loss of our skills and attributes, and ultimately of who we are
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65. Mary Jones…Wanting to die
76. Malcolm…Early-onset Alzheimer’s
87. Mary-Lou…Memory loss
98. Barbara…Mental and physical gymnastics
109. Sam…Controlling aggression
1110. Margaret…Losing one’s mind
1211. Mary’s Mum…An example of hope
1312. John…The time has come to retire
1413. Janice…John tries to ‘re-find’ the person
1514. James…Finding a link to the past
1615. Kate…Cheaper bingo
1716. Joyce…I had to go and check that the boat was still in the garage
1817. Elspeth…Instincts don’t go away
1918. Phyllis…And The Lord’s Prayer
2019. Peter…Reminiscence boxes
2120. Charlemagne…That stole is mine
2221. Bob…Facing death
2322. Helen...I played for Gustav Holst at Worcester Cathedral
2423. Joyce…Still giving in spite of…
2524. William…The Carob trees…
2625. Sarah….Making everyday count
2726. Jane…I still want to make a contribution
2827. Alice…The way that I want to die
2928. Tom…The faith of others can sustain me
3029. Fred…Being punished for trying to help
3130. Jacob…The Biblical evidence demonstrating the contributions that the elderly can make to the lives of others
3231. The Unknown Lady…Waiting to die… in the waiting room
3332. Helen…When I die, I want to be an example for others
3433. Gail…Losing her sight
3534. Samantha…Giving Power of Attorney
3635. Beth…Posterior cortical atrophy
3736. Maisie…Husband’s car crash… frontotemporal dementia
3837. Queenie…Adapting the home (or room)
3938. Ursula…Genetic tests… might I inherit Alzheimer’s gene?
4039. Jim…Cycling together
4140. Walter…Keep things simple… ask simple questions: ‘Which coffee do you prefer?’ / ‘Do you like your scone buttered or not?’
4241. Kenneth…How long does he have?
4342. George…Outlandish behaviour… dropping trousers… can’t use a PIN
4443. Desmond…Brought his motorcycle…. never rode it again… went out to polish it, and sit on it, and start the engine
4544. Linda…How do I tell whether the care is any good?
46A few ‘final’ thoughts
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