6Adolescence Amplifies Everything
121Why RAD Teens Prompt CPS Involvement
7The Armored Teen Thinks Differently
122What to Do When the Caseworker Arrives
8Early Trauma Rewires the Brain
123Document Everything Before It Happens
9Traditional Parenting Cannot Reach Them
124The Emotional Aftermath
10How to Use This Book
125Protecting Yourself While Staying Therapeutic
11Summary
126The Long Shadow of Investigation
12Chapter 2 What Went Wrong
127When the Report Has Merit
13Attachment Begins Before Memory
128Summary
14Four Styles Shape Every Relationship
129PART FOUR: CARING FOR THE CAREGIVER
15Disorganized Attachment Runs Deepest
130Chapter 16 When Your Heart Goes Offline
16The Diagnosis Tells Only Part
131Your Brain Is Protecting You From Your Child
17The Brain Built for Survival
132Recognizing the Signs
18The Difference Between Won't and Can't
133Strategies for Getting Your Heart Back Online
19Summary
134The Shame That Makes It Worse
20Chapter 3 The Nervous System Runs the Show
135When Blocked Care Becomes Secondary Trauma
21Three States Run the Show
136Small Practices That Bring You Back
22Your Teen's Alarm Never Stops
137Summary
23Neuroception Decides Before Thinking Does
138Chapter 17 Protecting Your Partnership
24Your Body Responds to Theirs
139RAD Teens Split Parents Apart
25Co-regulation Comes Before Correction
140Present a United Front Without Pretending to Agree
26Map the Patterns You See
141The Single Parent Facing This Alone
27Summary
142Communication Beyond Crisis Management
28Chapter 4 Seven Faces of the Armored Teen
143When Couples Therapy Helps
29The Controller Takes Charge
144Co-parenting With an Ex Who Does Not Believe
30The Charmer Wins the Room
145Protecting Intimacy in Exhaustion
31The Ghost Disappears Inside
146Summary
32The Provocateur Lights the Match
147Chapter 18 Siblings in the Storm
33The Victim Holds the Story
148The Invisible Children
34The Saboteur Breaks What Works
149Protecting Siblings From Harm
35The Shapeshifter Changes for Every Audience
150Creating Space for the Other Children
36Survival, Not Character
151Age-Appropriate Explanations
37Summary
152The Parentified Sibling
38Chapter 5 Why Nothing Has Worked
153Siblings Need Their Own Support
39Discipline Assumes a Desire to Please
154The Long View for Siblings
40Consequences Cannot Reach a Child Who Expects Pain
155Summary
41Rewards Become Another Broken Promise
156Chapter 19 Rebuilding Your Village
42Natural Consequences Echo Abandonment
157Why the Network Collapsed
43The Fifty Minute Hour Falls Short
158Finding People Who Understand
44Family Therapy Hands Them a Weapon
159Educating the People Who Remain
45What Might Actually Help
160Respite Care Is a Clinical Necessity
46Summary
161Building Your Professional Team
47PART TWO: BUILDING TRUST ONE BRICK AT A TIME
162The Elevator Speech
48Chapter 6 PACE for Parents of Teenagers
163Letting Some Relationships Go
49Playfulness Opens Closed Doors
164Online Communities and Their Limits
50Acceptance Speaks Before Words
165Summary
51Curiosity Replaces Judgment
166PART FIVE: THE LONG VIEW
52Empathy When You Are Empty
167Chapter 20 Redefining Success
53PACE Is Not Permissiveness
168Release the Fantasy
54Summary
169Progress Measured in Inches
55Chapter 7 The Power of Small Moments
170Earned Security Is Real
56Big Gestures Carry Too Much Weight
171Naming the Grief
57Alongside Activities Lower the Threat
172When Your Teen Does Not Get Better
58Reading the Signals Your Teen Sends
173Stop Comparing to Other Families
59The Thirty Second Repair
174The Gift You May Never See
60Building Closeness in Tiny Increments
175Summary
61When Every Attempt Is Rejected
176Chapter 21 When Eighteen Arrives
62Summary
177Legal Realities at Eighteen
63Chapter 8 Structure Without Control
178Preparing for the Teen Who Will Launch
64The Paradox of Control
179Preparing for the Teen Who Will Not Launch
65Household Rhythms Replace Rigid Rules
180When Your Adult Child Cuts Contact
66Collaborative Problem Solving Changes the Game
181Financial Planning and Protecting the Family
67Picking Battles Saves Your Energy
182When Your Adult Child Comes Back
68The Art of the Limited Choice
183Staying Connected Across Distance
69When the Structure Falls Apart
184Summary
70Summary
185Chapter 22 A Letter at 2 AM
71Chapter 9 Words That Get Through
186Summary
72Direct Conversation Shuts Them Down
187Appendix A Safety Plan Template
73The Sideways Approach Changes Everything
188Part One: Warning Signs
74Stories and Metaphors Reach Deeper Than Facts
189Part Two: Response Protocol
75What Never to Say
190Part Three: After the Crisis
76Texting as a Therapeutic Tool
191Part Four: Emergency Contacts
77When Silence Is the Right Move
192Part Five: Environmental Safety Measures
78Summary
193Appendix B Crisis Resource Directory
79Chapter 10 When Everyone Is Flooding
194National Crisis Lines
80Know Where You Are Before You Act
195RAD and Attachment-Specific Organizations
81The Sixty Second Reset
196Educational Advocacy
82De-escalation When Your Teen Is Raging
197Residential Treatment Resources
83When Your Teen Goes Dark
198Legal Resources
84When You Are the One Who Breaks
199Appendix C Therapist Vetting Checklist
85Safety Planning for Physical Aggression
200Essential Qualifications (All Should Be Yes)
86Summary
201Strongly Preferred Qualifications
87PART THREE: NAVIGATING THE SYSTEMS
202Questions to Ask During the Initial Consultation
88Chapter 11 Finding the Right Therapist
203Red Flags (Any of These Should Prompt You to Look Elsewhere)
89Know What You Need Before You Search
204After the First Three Sessions
90Modalities That Work
205Appendix D IEP and 504 Accommodation Guide
91Therapies to Avoid
206Sample Accommodations for Attachment-Disrupted Teens
92When Therapy Makes Things Worse
207Emotional Regulation Supports
93Working With a Therapist Who Is Learning
208Behavioral Supports
94Managing the Search Exhaustion
209Academic Supports
95Summary
210Social Supports
96Chapter 12 Fighting for School Support
211Sample Language for IEP Goals
97Know Your Teen's Educational Rights
212Sample Email to Teachers
98How RAD Presents in the Classroom
213Appendix E Medication Tracking Log
99Writing Goals That Actually Matter
214Current Medications
100When the School Sees a Different Child
215Discontinued Medications
101When the School Calls CPS
216Weekly Behavior and Mood Tracking
102Summary
217Questions to Bring to Prescriber Appointments
103Communicating With Teachers Who Do Not Understand
218Appendix F Documentation System for Therapeutic Parenting
104Chapter 13 The Medication Question
219Daily Behavior Log
105What Medication Can and Cannot Do
220Weekly Summary
106Common Medications and Their Roles
221Document Storage
107Questions to Ask Before Saying Yes
222Why This Matters
108The Problem of Too Many Medications
223Appendix G Resources
109When Your Teen Refuses Medication
224Caregiver Wellbeing
110Summary
225Polyvagal Theory
111Working With Prescribers Who Do Not Understand Attachment
226Educational Advocacy
112Chapter 14 The Residential Treatment Decision
227For Siblings
113When to Consider Placement
228For Teens (When Ready)
114Types of Programs
229Appendix H Glossary of Clinical Terms
115Red Flags in Residential Programs
