1Acknowledgments
273.6 Difficult Intimacy
2Foreword by Lynda Bevan
283.7 Boom! Intimacy
3Chapter 1: Getting Started – Intimacy
29Chapter 4: Intimacy and Your Partner
4Key Truths Concerning Intimacy
304.1 Unilateral Intimacy
5A Word About Men
314.2 Shared Intimacy
6How to Use This Workbook
324.3 Asking for Intimacy
71.1 Intimacy Maintenance and Development is Hard Work
334.4 Choosing To Decline Intimacy
81.2 Our History of Intimacy
344.5 Handling a Declined Invitation
91.3 Defining Contracts
354.6 The Role of Power in Intimacy
101.4 Personal Rules of Engagement
36Chapter 5: Expanding Intimacy
11Chapter 2: Breaking Through Your Intimacy Barriers
375.1 Human Intimacy is Limited
122.1 Blocks to Intimacy
385.2 Willingness to Move Outside of Our Comfort Zone
132.2 Words Matter
395.3 Misinterpreted Desire
142.3 Changing the Negative Script
405.4 Clear Communication Feeds Intimacy
152.4 Intimacy Maintenance and Growth Requires Being Intentional
415.5 Solitude Feeds Intimacy
162.5 Clarity of Intention
425.6 The Clock is Ticking
172.6 Intimacy Planning
43Chapter 6: Intimacy in the Long Run
182.7 Carrying Out the Plan
446.1 Married Dating
192.8 Intellectual Intimacy
456.2 Structuring Shared Intimacy: Weekly In-House Dates
202.9 Emotional Intimacy
466.3 Structuring Shared Intimacy: Monthly Out of House Dates
21Chapter 3: Sex and Intimacy
476.4 Structuring Shared Intimacy: Yearly Retreat
223.1 Physical (non-sexual) Intimacy
486.5 Structuring Shared Intimacy: Yearly Retreat Structure
233.2 Sexual Intimacy
49Appendix: Intimate Acts to Try
243.3 Eroticism
50About the Author
253.4 Sexual Functioning Issues
51Bibliography
263.5 Spiritual Intimacy
52Index
