1About the Author
33Theory: Triggers and Flashbacks
2Dedication
34Theory: Mechanism Being Allergic to One’s Own Feelings
3Foreword
35Theory: Avoidance
4Part 1 : The Impact of Trauma
36Exercise: The Continuous Letter
5The Tiger in Carlo
37Ruud: Big Lies
6Theory: Trauma Flight, Fight, Freeze
38Theory: Your Worldview Under Pressure
7Theory: Trauma and Loneliness
39Theory: Mechanism Thinking You Are Going Crazy
8Theory: Processing, Reliving and Reexperiencing the Trauma
40Theory: Being Out of Touch with Who You Are
9Exercise: A Different Scenario
41Exercise: Sitting on Your Own Chair
10Lena: I Am Afraid I Am Getting Too Fat
42Anna: The Emptiness Inside Me
11Theory: Attachment
43Theory: Taboos Reinforce Our Trauma
12Theory: Parentification
44Theory: Mechanism 4 The Compulsion to Repeat the Trauma
13Theory: Intergenerational Trauma
45Theory: Defusing Trauma
14Exercise: Finding the Proper Distance Between You and Your Parents
46Exercise: I Have Become Who I Am Because…
15Camilla’s Mirror
47Part 3 : Healing Our Trauma.
16Theory: Self-Worth and Shame
48And How About You?
17Theory: Self-Worth, Self-Care and Boundaries
49Exercise: Finding Your Own Key Scenarios
18Theory: The Blind Spot of Trauma
50Exercise: Making a Still of Your Key Scenario
19Exercise: I Love You
51Healing
20Elsie’s Cramp
52Exercise: A New Key Scenario
21Theory: Chronic Trauma
53Exercise: Letting Go of the Traumatic Pain
22Theory: Dissociation
54Exercise: How Well Have You Processed Your Trauma?
23Theory: Resilience
55You and Your Boundaries
24Exercise: A Me Without Trauma
56Exercise: Talking to Your Inner Child
25Part 2 : Trauma Mechanisms
57Exercise: Letting Go of Roles
26Ramzi: I Have Lost Everything
58Exercise: Your Ideal “Self” as a Guideline
27Theory: Trauma Energy and Trauma Time
59Your Rhythm, Your Zest for Life
28Theory: Mechanism 1 Reacting on Instinct
60Exercise: Walking Meditation
29Theory: Trauma and Human Kindness
61Exercise: Breathing In, Breathing Out
30Exercise: Thinking of a Fellow Human Being
62Exercise: From Myself to the Other and Back
31Anger and Sadness
63Annex
32Isabel: I Want to Get Rid of My Anger
64Copyright Information