The Bastard's Advantage
How To Stay Grounded, Clear, and Unshaken By Difficult PeopleBy Ivy Hoo
Length6h 15m
About this audiobook
Someone ruined your day again. Maybe it was your ex, using your kids as leverage. Your boss, taking credit for your work. Or a parent whose "compliment" somehow left you smaller than before.
The Bastard's Advantage isn't another book about letting it go. It's a field guide to the people who make your life harder than it needs to be, and a practical framework for staying grounded, clear, and unshaken when they do.
Ivy Hoo names the exact tactics difficult people use, from the backhanded diagnostic comment to the gaslighting reality edit, so you can finally see them coming. Then she gives you something better than a coping slogan: a real system for responding on purpose, not on reflex.
Raw stories. Real psychology.
One idea that changes everything: you cannot control the bastard. You can only control your response.
Audiobook details
GenreSelf-Help, Psychology
Length6 hrs 15 mins
Narrated byListen with 1,000+ voices
FormateBook with Audio
Publish dateJul 16, 2026
LanguageEnglish
Table of contents
1Credits
2About
3Introduction
4Part 1 : Relationships
5Chapter One: The Puppet Master
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6Chapter Two: The Guilt Tripper
7Chapter Three: The Saboteur Partner
8Chapter Four: The Friendship Vampire
9Part II : Work Life
10Chapter Five: The Toxic Boss
11Chapter Six: The Meeting Backstabber
12Chapter Seven : The Workload Dumper
13Chapter Eight: The HR Gaslight
14Part III : Daily Life
15Chapter Nine: Road Rage
16Chapter Ten: The Customer Service
17Chapter Eleven: The Neighbour From
18Chapter Twelve: Social Media Trolls
19Part IV : Inside the Bastard: Understanding the Psychology
20Chapter Thirteen: Where Bastards Come From
21Chapter Fourteen: The Narcissist, the
22Chapter Fifteen: Why Your Reaction Is
23Chapter Sixteen: When You Have Been
24Epilogue : The Decent People
25Acknowledgments
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